Recently, I did something that I swore I’d never do. I let a boy get in the way of my education and my career. I turned down opportunities and spent more time on a relationship than I did on my work, and it sucks. Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important to place huge importance on your personal life as well as your career, but it’s all about balance. One of them should never overtake the other, and I sat back and watched it happen and did nothing.
No more! I have so much on my plate right now and extra commitments coming up over the next few months. There’s a lot that I have no choice but to accomplish, but there’s also a lot that I want to accomplish myself. Nobody has told me I have to do them, but I want to. They’re all things that have been important to me at one time or another, and I want them to be important to me now.
I need to find a job. I’m a student, and for lack of better words, I’m skint. I was searching around for work at the beginning of September, but then ‘boy gate’ happened and I put it on the back burner. Not anymore! Before Christmas, I will have a job. A friend told me recently that all the best things in her life happened because she asked the universe for them, so universe, if you’re listening, please help my bank account out.
I need to get fit again. Before the summer, I was going to the gym 4 times a week, but I’ve only been once since I got back to university. Not working out takes a toll on my physical and mental health and I’ve noticed. However, there’s a roadblock. As mentioned in goal one, I’m skint, so I’ve had to cancel my gym membership. Jogging and at home workouts for me for the time being!
For the time being, I don’t want to date anyone. I don’t want to give into my friend’s pressure to download Tinder or Bumble. I don’t want to go out for dinner with the boy I’ve been ignoring for 3 months. I don’t want to drunk text the boy who broke my heart in the spring, and I don’t want to meet anyone new. There are so many things going on in my life that I need to prioritise right now, and boys aren’t one of them.
I want to get reading again. I used to read two or three books a month, but this year I’ve read half a book that I put down when I got too busy. It’s difficult reading a lot when you’re at university and you have 3 chapters of a law textbook and 18 pages of political theory to read every week, but I want to at least make time to sit and read for around an hour every week. A little goes a long way.
I want to get creative. I used to draw, paint and write constantly. Yes, technically I’m writing on my blog, but it’s not the same kind of creativity that you have when it’s 3am and you’re sat on the front porch writing a poem. I’ve been in such a creative rut for over a year now, and it’s killing my motivation. I was planning on doing Inktober to kickstart things, but surprise surprise, boys got in the way.
Normally I’d ask you to write your own goals in the comments, so if you want to do that, feel free! What I want more than that though, is that you take a look at your life and think about the way you’re prioritising things. Are you spending too much time working, or are you focusing on the fun a bit more than you should?
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